KEY POINTS

  • Michelle Obama made a heartbreaking admission about her marriage to Barack Obama
  • Michelle Obama and Barack Obama went to couples' therapy together
  • The Obamas are still happily married 

Michelle Obama just made a heartbreaking but inspirational confession about her marriage to Barack Obama.

During her conversation with Oprah Winfrey as part of the talk show host’s “2020 Vision: Your Life in Focus Tour,” the ex-FLOTUS admitted that even though a lot of people see her and Barack as marriage or relationship goals, things haven’t always been easy for the couple.

The former first lady said that marriage and raising a family together are both hard, and it could take a toll on anyone including them. At one point in their marriage, Barack and Michelle agreed to seek professional help. The ex-first couple went to therapy together.

“Sometimes you need an objective person to just hear you out. It taught me that I was responsible for my own happiness. I didn’t marry Barack for him to make me happy. No one can make me happy,” she said.

Michelle then went on to say that as partners, she and Barack saw each other as their equal. As such, it was important for both of them to be able to make themselves happy so they stopped focusing on what the other isn’t doing.

“The more I succeeded in defining myself for myself, the better I was in my partnership,” she said.

Since leaving the White House, Barack and Michelle have been enjoying a simpler and quieter life away from their daughters, Malia and Sasha. Their two kids are now in college so they no longer live with their parents.

Michelle said that she and her husband have more time for each other. And when she looks at Barack, the ex-FLOTUS still recognizes him as her husband and the man that she fell in love with years ago.

Meanwhile, this isn’t the first time that Michelle revealed that she went to couples’ therapy with the ex-POTUS. During her interview on the “Tonight Show” to promote her memoir, “Becoming,” Michelle said that her motivation for going before was to try to fix her husband because she saw herself as someone who is perfect.

Barack and Michelle Obama
Former first couple Barack and Michelle Obama have an estimated net worth of $80 million. Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images