KEY POINTS

  • Bruce Willis' wife, Emma Heming, admitted that taking care of everyone in her household took a toll on her mental and overall health
  • Heming said exercise is a great self-care for her because it disconnects her and makes her feel good
  • She urged other moms not to listen to unsolicited advice, emphasizing that "one size does not fit all"

Emma Heming admits that she's struggling amid her husband Bruce Willis' aphasia diagnosis.

The 43-year-old model revealed that she struggles with "making the time for self-care every day" while taking care of everyone in her household, which has taken a toll on her mental health.

"I put my family's needs above my own, which I found does not make me any kind of hero," she told The Bump in an interview published Thursday. "That amount of care for everyone else within my household had taken a toll on my mental health and overall health, and it served no one in my family."

Heming's statement on family comes after her husband—with whom she shares daughters Mabel Willis, 10, and Evelyn Willis, 8—was diagnosed with aphasia, a language disorder that affects "the production or comprehension of speech and the ability to read or write," according to the National Aphasia Association.

She recalled receiving a piece of advice recently that said, "When you over-care for someone, you end up under-caring for yourself."

The "Perfect Stranger" star said it "resonated" with her and made her realize that she also needed to give herself enough time and care so that she could sustain looking after her family.

"I don’t mother myself perfectly, but I know that I have some basic baseline needs that are a must, like first and foremost, exercise," she shared. "It’s a time I can disconnect and can do something that I know makes me feel good overall. I think it’s important to find that one thing that makes you feel good and build from there."

Discussing motherhood, Heming said the first three months were not easy as Willis had just signed three movies back-to-back. She shared that at the time, she had no time to doubt herself and just trusted the process.

When it comes to her favorite part of being Evelyn and Mabel's mom, Heming said, "It's always been about making memories."

"I’m not even sure we have rituals or traditions. We just love spending time with each other and we know that time is precious, and I don’t take that for granted," she added.

Asked for advice she would like to impart to other moms, Willis' wife said they should "stop listening to unsolicited advice."

"One size does not fit all. Each child and family are different, which means the needs are different. Follow what feels right for you versus the naysayers," she explained.

Heming revealed Willis' recent health struggles in March, posting a joint statement with the actor's ex-wife Demi Moore and the former couple's daughters — Rumer, 33, Scout, 30, and Tallulah, 28.

"With much consideration, Bruce is stepping away from the career that has meant so much to him," their social media uploads announced at the time. "This is a really challenging time for our family and we are so appreciative of your continued love, compassion and support. We are moving through this as a strong family unit."

The statement concluded with a quote from Willis, reading, "'Live it up.' … Together we plan to do just that."

Actor Bruce Willis and his wife Emma Heming arrive at the 68th annual Golden Globe Awards in Beverly Hills, California, January 16, 2011.
Actor Bruce Willis and his wife Emma Heming arrive at the 68th annual Golden Globe Awards in Beverly Hills, California, January 16, 2011. Reuters