KEY POINTS

  • Michelle Obama joked that there were times when she wanted to push her husband Barack out of the window
  • The ex-FLOTUS advised the young people to look for LeBron James' qualities in their future partners
  • The Obamas will be celebrating their 18th wedding anniversary next month

Michelle Obama shared what makes her marriage with husband Barack "very strong" when she talked about relationships with Conan O'Brien ahead of their 18th wedding anniversary next month.

The Obamas tied the knot on Oct. 3, 1992 and their marriage is still going strong. The former first lady revealed that they keep their marriage strong by not giving up especially during the tough times when they couldn't stand each other.

"There were times that I wanted to push Barack out of the window," Obama joked during the "Michelle Obama Podcast" with O'Brien on Sept. 2 as quoted by Us Weekly.

"And I say that because it’s like, you’ve got to know the feelings will be intense. But that doesn’t mean you quit. And these periods can last a long time. They can last years," she continued.

"Young couples, they face these challenges and they’re ready to give up because they think they’re broken. … If that breaks a marriage, then Barack and I have been broken off and on throughout our marriage, but we have a very strong marriage. And if I had given up on it, if I had walked away from it in those tough times, then I would’ve missed all the beauty that was there as well.”

Obama also considered her husband's presidency the "ultimate test" for them. The lawyer mentioned "marriage of equals" which was always challenging because marrying the commander in chief and being the first lady meant she was only second person to him.

"The commander in chief takes precedent," Obama added.

The ex-FLOTUS also advised the young people to looks for their own version of LeBron James when finding a partner. She likened marriage to picking your own basketball team and James’ qualities are very helpful because he is a superstar in NBA.

"You don't want any weak links, you don't want somebody that you can dominate, you don't want somebody who's kind of a loser, right. And also, if you're on a team, you've got to be able to do everything, especially in basketball, it's like, you would never pick somebody that says, 'I only dribble. I don't shoot, I don't defend, I just dribble," Obama explained.

"If we looked at marriage as a real team, you want your teammate to be a winner. You want LeBron, you know?"

Michelle Obama at campaign rally in Phoenix, AZ
First Lady of the United States Michelle Obama speaking with supporters of former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton at a campaign rally at the Phoenix Convention Center in Phoenix, Arizona. Photo by Gage Skidmore/Flickr Photo by Gage Skidmore/Flickr